Comfort For Hope Siblings: God Is Always With You
One of the hardest things we, as Hope Moms, have to do after loss is try to reconcile how a good God can let bad things happen. Trying to help our Hope Siblings understand such a hard reality is equally, if not more, difficult. But it is vital we parent our children through the hardship of loss with God’s truth.
Last weekend I was at a church service and we sang a song with these lyrics:
And all my life You have been faithful And all my life You have been so, so good With every breath that I am able Oh, I will sing of the goodness of God
I stood there singing ...
Dana’s Story
Right before my 20 week sonogram, we asked Elexander, our oldest son, if we were going to have a boy or a girl. He informed me it was a fish. Fish were his new favorite thing, and he was adamant that mommy had a fish in her stomach. So our new baby’s nickname was fish, and soon we would be able to give him or her a real name.
We went in for our typical 20 month sonogram. We were so excited to find out if we were carrying a boy or a girl. I was betting on a girl, although if I had another crazy little boy like Elexander I would be just as happy. We went into the office ...
Ask the Blog Team: What Would You Say to a Mom Who is Feeling Either “Too Sad” or “Not Sad Enough” in Her Grief?
Welcome to our Q+A series, Ask the Blog Team. In this series, the Hope Mommies blog team joins together to answer questions that are commonly asked in grief. If there is a question or topic that you have wrestled with in your grief that you would like the opportunity to see how other Hope Moms have processed or answered, we would love to hear from you. You can submit your questions here.
Your sadness will wax and wane. Thankfully, we do get relief from the burden of sadness. When you have days that you aren't feeling sad "enough", I recommend asking God and ...
Cliche Comforts: “The Lord Doesn’t Give You More Than You Can Handle”
As grieving parents, I am sure all of us have encountered someone who tried to comfort us with a cliche that was probably not very comforting at all. Death makes people nervous. Especially a baby’s death in a culture that does not always recognize the value of children (at any age in the womb or out).
At least in my experience, I have noticed that people do not know what to say to a grieving parent—or they do not always think through what they are saying. It is very easy to offer a cliche comfort or make a comment with no real substance to a grieving parent. I say ...
In the Word: Hope Lives
Welcome to Hope Mommies’ In the Word devotionals. It is our desire that this series will aid you in getting in the Bible for yourself and discovering the joy that comes from hearing from God through the pages of His Word.
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to His great mercy, He has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead,”
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Living. What we have is a living hope. It is based on the two solid truths of the living Word of God (1 Pet. 1:23), and the ...
Discussion in Grief: Soul-Care
Grieving involves new emotions and considerations often too many to numbers. When you find yourself in overwhelming grief, you likely feel buried and lost. In this series, we slowly and compassionately look at one aspect of grief at a time from a biblical perspective for the newly grieving mother. Click {here} to read past posts in this series.
My third child and only son, Chance Michael, was born sleeping at 20 weeks gestation. At 18.5 weeks his little heart was beating, and by 20 weeks he was gone. The months following Chance’s death were some of the hardest ...
A Great Love
Through [Christ] we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. Romans 5:2-5
Our hearts are prone to ignore, discredit, and even forget the greatest love in the word. It is a love of so great a measure that we could ...
Tabitha’s Story
For as long as I can remember, one of my greatest desires has been to be a mommy. In August of 2020, my dream became a reality. My husband and I frequently talked about growing our family, and I remember vividly the day we decided to start trying.
At the time, we knew my dad had some health concerns, and we knew it was one of two things —pancreatitis or pancreatic cancer. On August 8, 2020, my husband, Austin, and I went on a hike. I remember sitting on a quiet bench along the trail and telling Austin that I did not want to wait any longer to try for a baby; I wanted ...
Discussions in Grief: Permission to Grieve
Grieving involves new emotions and considerations often too many to numbers. When you find yourself in overwhelming grief, you likely feel buried and lost. In this series, we slowly and compassionately look at one aspect of grief at a time from a biblical perspective for the newly grieving mother. Click {here} to read past posts in this series.
I remember the first time I felt the guilt. It had been a few weeks since Chance’s funeral, my son who we lost at 20 weeks’ gestation, and I was alone, at home, with my two daughters, ages 15 months and 2.5 years.
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Holding on to His Promises
The enemy wants to come in and take your focus off of what is true. He’s waiting at your door. He wants to pluck everything you've learned—all that God has taught you—and throw it out. And if you don’t have anything solid to yell back at him, you are going to start listening to him instead. You’re going to start believing the lies, because grief and doubt make you listen. If you aren’t leaning on God’s Word, you will get pulled toward grief and doubt, and it will cloud your vision.
You need to get into the Word of God and believe what is true about Him. ...
