One Another

The loss of a child changes your life.  And sorrow of this magnitude also greatly effects your relationship with your spouse.  When we are cloaked in such a heavy grief, it can be immensely difficult to remember that this heart-wrenching loss has not only altered your life, but that of your spouse as well.  It is hard enough to learn how to walk through life without your beloved children in our arms, but we also must learn how to navigate this sorrow along with someone else. And in the wake of such hurt and pain, bringing two grieving hearts together can feel like an ...

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Links for Hope Moms {March Edition}

{"Today Would Have Been Our Daughter's First Birthday," by Jackie Gibson via The Gospel Coalition}// "Today should have been our daughter’s first birthday. The great enemy—death—has stolen something precious from us. Robert L. Dabney, who lost two sons, described death as a 'cruel destroyer.' In a letter to his brother, he wrote: 'Ah! When the mighty wings of the angel of death nestles over your heart’s treasures, and his black shadow broods over your home, it shakes the heart with a shuddering terror and a horror of great darkness.' [...] And yet today was ...

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Share Your Story Saturday {Kristen’s Story}

Shortly after our oldest son, Kason, turned a year old my husband and I began planning to expand our little family. After struggling with unexplained infertility with Kason, we did not know if it would take months or even years to become pregnant again. But in May of 2014, I became pregnant with our daughter. My pregnancy was perfect! It wasn’t until a week before our due date that any worry invaded my mind. It was a Friday and I had noticed that I was not feeling her move as she normally did. I kept trying to convince myself that all was fine and that there was ...

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Blessed Are the Persecuted

“Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.  Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you.” -Matthew 5:10-12 The beatitudes present to us a way of life that is a stark contradiction to our natural responses and inclinations.  The first seven beatitudes described a list of characteristics that we ought to pursue as believers...

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Testimony Tuesday {Help After Baby Loss: Time Doesn’t Always Heal}

I’ve heard it said that time heals. I suppose it does. But not always right away. In the months following a miscarriage it might seem to the outsider that much time has passed, therefore healing is inevitable. Each passing month for me has brought its own set of challenges. In some ways, I have healed a lot. But in others, the time has only intensified the sadness. I don’t cry nearly as much as I used to, but there are days that I just can’t shake the sadness—the sad reality that I thought I would be feeling a kicking baby by now. One of the helpful things for ...

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Share Your Story Saturday {Sam’s Story}

2016 began with great joy as my husband and I celebrated our first pregnancy—one that quickly ended in miscarriage on January 14, around 7-8 weeks. I had never felt devastation, disappointment, and pain like I experienced over that next several weeks as I grieved a child I had never known. A few months later, we were again expecting. At 12 weeks, we learned that we were having a son and that he likely had Down Syndrome. We were overwhelmed by fear of the unknown and sadness for what we thought would be a difficult life for our son. As we waited for additional scans to ...

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Blessed Are the Peacemakers

For the past several weeks, we have been going verse by verse through the beatitudes that mark the beginning of Christ’s “Sermon on the Mount,” recorded in the book of Matthew.  Each week we have unpacked what it looks like to live in such a way as these verses describe — poor in spirit, spiritually morning over our sins, meek, hungry for righteousness, merciful, and pure of heart.  Today we come to the seventh beatitude: “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.” -Matthew 5:9 Oh!  But peace can be so hard to achieve in the ...

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Testimony Tuesday {Help After Baby Loss: Be Pro-Life}

A while back someone I know, in speaking about a friend’s grief after her miscarriage, said “I don’t know why she is so upset. She wasn’t even that far along.” At the time I remember thinking it was insensitive, but I also had no categories for it. I knew it was wrong, but I just couldn’t pinpoint why besides the fact that I thought it was rude. Thankfully, no one has said anything remotely close to that. But I know people who have had something very similar said to them, so it’s probably not an uncommon statement. For the observer of the woman who ...

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Share Your Story Saturday {Julie’s Story}

In the Stillness There’s a worship song that I use to sing quite often back in my high school youth group days. You might be familiar with it. The opening lyrics say, “In the secret, in the quiet place In the stillness You are there. In the secret, in the quiet hour I wait, Only for You, ‘cause I want to know you more…” I had always thought of those lyrics as a portrait of the author rising early in the morning before the hustle and bustle of the day, cracking open her bible and waiting for the Lord to blow down fresh fire with His word. The Lord, ...

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Blessed Are the Pure in Heart

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God." -Matthew 5:8 Life is hard. And if you’ve lost a child, life will be hard all of your life I didn’t put a period at the end of that sentence because it isn’t the end. It is the beginning - the beginning of a life where you trust in and rely on Jesus. How can we Hope Mommies trust in and rely on a “God that let us down?” We can because we are Hope Mommies – we hope in the Lord. He is our only hope. "This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls," -Hebrews 6:19 God didn’t cause ...

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