Holding on to His Promises

The enemy wants to come in and take your focus off of what is true. He’s waiting at your door.  He wants to pluck everything you’ve learned—all that God has taught you—and throw it out. And if you don’t have anything solid to yell back at him, you are going to start listening to him instead. You’re going to start believing the lies, because grief and doubt make you listen. If you aren’t leaning on God’s Word, you will get pulled toward grief and doubt, and it will cloud your vision. 

You need to get into the Word of God and believe what is true about Him. The enemy is a liar.  His time is limited, and he knows it. In Christ, we are the winners. We are the victors. Believe that! When Satan whispers lies to you, shout back those promises of God. When the grief and doubt is hovering over you, sometimes you have to open up your mouth and yell out the promises of God.

“You will never leave me or forsake me!” (Hebrews 13:5) “There is nothing too hard for God!” (Jeremiah 32:27) “God cannot lie!” (Titus 1:2)

Our God can make the blind see. He can make the deaf hear and the lame walk. The woman who had been bleeding for twelve years didn’t even have to say anything. She just touched his robe and was healed. She had enough faith that she knew if she just touched him something would change. We have to believe this, mommas; these aren’t just stories.

Find a promise for your problem and hold on to it. Say it out loud to yourself. And when His Word in your head begins to attach to your feelings, it will dictate your behavior. So regardless of what happens in your life from this point on, you can know the truth of God’s Word, because His Word never changes. It remains the same yesterday, today, and forever. There is no new version of God. He is the same God who opened up the Red Sea.

The promises of God are true and unchanging. Does that mean that we are going to laugh every day? No. But the hope that we have in Him settles our hearts so that we can truly say, “It is well with my soul.”

“It is well because God is with me.” “I am hurting. I miss my baby. I don’t know what to do, but it is well with my soul.” “God hears me.”

This is what I do. I speak these promises out loud to myself. “God, you are here. You restore. You save. You give hope. I believe in you. You have your arms around us. You feel our pain.  Show me your strength.” And when you do this, the enemy runs. Because He can’t stand against the truth of God’s Word.   

So speak life to your situation. Grief wants you to run round and dismiss the promises of God. It’s okay to grieve, but in your grief you have to grab on to the promises of Jesus. He is the only way that you are going to get through this process.

You have to realize that He is all you have, and He is all you need. Even if you never have another baby, through Him, it can be well with your soul. So get to know His Word. Speak His Word into your life. Yes, He promises beauty for ashes, but if you don’t know that you will just walk around thinking that all there is for you is ashes.

I believe that God’s plan is better than mine. If having another baby is the best thing I can think of to happen to me, but God’s way is better, bring it on! I want that plan. If He tells me that there is something greater, and more joyful than what I think is best, bring it on, because I believe that He works for my good.

Dive into the Word of God and speak truth to yourself. We don’t do this enough, and we can never do it too much. Grief is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. And in order to keep going—in order to get to the finish—we need truth.  So speak His truth into your pain every day.

Don’t go by your feelings. They go up and down, in and out. Some days your grief will try to tell you there is no God. But the truth of God’s Word says, “His promises are true. God cannot lie. He is a God of eternity and there is eternal life that we can look forward to.” He’s here. He’s here for me, and He’s here for you too. So hold on.

I am a wife to my best friend, Chris and the mother of 6 wonderful children. Three are here in my arms, and three have the privilege of living in the presence of Jesus. Both my husband and I are licensed professional counselors and live outside of Dallas, Texas. I enjoy walking with other moms who are grieving the loss of their precious babies. My counseling practice is focused on guiding others with the truth of God’s Word into the hope and freedom that is promised through Christ. Most of my days are spent cooking, cleaning, and chauffeuring kids around. Are you a writer who would like to join the blog team? Learn more and apply here.