19 results for tag: Grieving Together
Be Patient With One Another: His Story
Patience
How my wife has shown me great patience during this deep loss
Pause: The loss of our little girl caused our lives to pause and stop at a moment in time, a moment that will never be forgotten. I’m reminded of a margin in a book or a comma between words; it’s there for a reason. Watching my hurting bride, Kelly, at this deepest pause God put in our path was the hardest sorrow my heart has felt.
Then I called on the name of the Lord: “O Lord, I pray, deliver my soul!”
Psalm 116:4
Acceptance: At the beginning of this trial, what my wife and I experienced was more of a shared, mutual state of shock. From the emergency C-section ...
Serve One Another: Her Story
I arrived at the doctor’s office and was almost immediately called back for my ultrasound. But as the first glimpse of this precious little one appeared on the monitor, I knew in my heart that something was not right. He was not as big as I had expected for being 14 weeks. And he was completely still. Schmidt babies are never still.
After a few moments of searching, our ultrasound tech confirmed what I already knew to be true. His heart was not beating, and mine was aching.
I was moved into another room to wait to meet with other nurses and doctors who would tell me what to expect in the coming days and weeks. As I sat in the silence, feeling ...
Serve One Another: His Story
Serving One Another
I am going to start off by saying that I did lots of things wrong… just ask my wife. It is only by God’s grace that Ashlee and I have been able to serve one another in the midst of loss because we are two sinful people. But God still worked through me as I tried to serve my wife despite all my faults and failures. If this whole “serving one another in grief” thing seems overwhelming, well that’s because it is. But here is the thing: we have God multiplying our work. As you move ahead one step at a time in obedience watch what God will do. Don’t let your past failures and selfishness in your marriage keep you from ...
One Another
The loss of a child changes your life. And sorrow of this magnitude also greatly effects your relationship with your spouse. When we are cloaked in such a heavy grief, it can be immensely difficult to remember that this heart-wrenching loss has not only altered your life, but that of your spouse as well. It is hard enough to learn how to walk through life without your beloved children in our arms, but we also must learn how to navigate this sorrow along with someone else. And in the wake of such hurt and pain, bringing two grieving hearts together can feel like an impossible task.
Our human nature tells us to turn inward in our grief. It tries ...
Grieving Together: Give Grace
Walking through the loss of a child is extremely difficult on its own, but the difficulty can be greatly compounded when walking through that grief with another. In this series, we seek to write about the ways we can encourage and support our spouse in grief, and come together before the Lord instead of being driven apart by sorrow.
“I pray that this trial makes you love God and each other more.”
A family friend texted this to me a few days after she found out my daughter, Isabelle, had died. I cried when I read the text, because I had been praying the same thing. I had heard stories of marriages falling apart after the loss of a ...
Grieving Together: Be Honest About Your Feelings
Walking through the loss of a child is extremely difficult on its own, but the difficulty can be greatly compounded when walking through that grief with another. In this series, we seek to write about the ways we can encourage and support our spouse in grief, and come together before the Lord instead of being driven apart by sorrow.
It has taken me nearly five years to look back on our first anniversary without the heaviness washing over me. I would often reflect on our wedding day with weary tears in my eyes thinking, “We had no idea...”
Our first anniversary was a mere six weeks after the day we received a ...
Grieving Together: Spend Intentional Time With Your Spouse
Walking through the loss of a child is extremely difficult on its own, but the difficulty can be greatly compounded when walking through that grief with another. In this series, we seek to write about the ways we can encourage and support our spouse in grief, and come together before the Lord instead of being driven apart by sorrow.
It had been just over two weeks since our little one went to be with Jesus. I was still carrying his lifeless body inside of my own. My womb was just not ready to let go of the pregnancy, and I desperately wanted the opportunity to deliver our baby naturally instead of having surgery. It was the one thing I ...
Anchored: Grieving Together
Over the next nine weeks on the blog, we will be following along with our fall Hope Groups as they go through Hope Mommies’ newly published Bible Study — Anchored. For those of you who did not register for a group this year, this will be an opportunity to walk through the topics studied in our Hope Groups. For those of you who are currently participating in a Hope Group, our desire is for these posts to reinforce the lessons you are learning with your group. Wherever you are in your journey through loss and grief, I pray that this series will encourage your heavy hearts, remind you of truth, and point you to the unrelenting, far-reaching ...
