Ask the Blog Team: How Have You Handled Well-Meaning But Hurtful Comments From Those Around You?
Welcome to our Q+A series, Ask the Blog Team. In this series, the Hope Mommies blog team joins together to answer questions that are commonly asked in grief. If there is a question or topic that you have wrestled with in your grief that you would like the opportunity to see how other Hope Moms have processed or answered, we would love to hear from you. You can submit your questions here.
These comments used to hurt me, and if I am being honest, they still can. But I try to extend grace to these people. I try to give them the benefit of the doubt, and I tell ...
Meghan’s Story
“Lord, this is too dark of a valley. I do not want to walk this road again.” Tears ran down my cheeks as I sat by the water by myself. I had just left an emergency midwife appointment where I learned that my baby girl’s heart had stopped beating at 13 weeks. I should have been 16 weeks pregnant.
What stung the most was this was my fourth loss. Four babies in heaven. This time was different, or so I had thought. I had been so peaceful. I had dared to hope! With my 12-year-old daughter and 1-and-a-half-year-old new blessing baby boy at home, we had been ...
Even When I Can’t See
I got off the phone with my doctor, who had confirmed the news that my husband and I had been dreading the past few days. Our baby had stopped growing.
I honestly just felt numb. The tears, which had been flowing ever since the doctor first said that he could not find a heartbeat, stopped. The crippling anxiety turned into an all-too-familiar pain. My defenses automatically went up.
I deleted all of the baby reveal pictures off my phone, unsubscribed from the pregnancy website where I was registered, and then told everyone the news. I was determined to process ...
Ask the Blog Team: For those who had an early loss, do you ever struggle with feeling like your grief is “less valid” than others’?
Welcome to our Q+A series, Ask the Blog Team. In this series, the Hope Mommies blog team joins together to answer questions that are commonly asked in grief. If there is a question or topic that you have wrestled with in your grief that you would like the opportunity to see how other Hope Moms have processed or answered, we would love to hear from you. You can submit your questions here.
Anna was born prematurely at 17 weeks due to my cervix failing, so my situation was unique; she did not die in utero. We delivered in the hospital and were able to hold her and ...
Born of a Woman
Welcome to Hope Mommies’ In the Word devotionals. Throughout this Advent season, we will be studying Galatians 4:4-5 together. In this series, we wil study the gospel truths found in these verses and discover how the coming of Christ speaks into our sorrow.
"But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons."Galatians 4:4-5
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Born of a woman.
I’ve been reading recently in Genesis during my weekly ...
Autumn’s Shadow
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time ...
25 Years Later
It can often seem as though you will always be drowning beneath the acute pain of loss. However, while our grief never truly ends, it doesn't always look and feel the same way. In this series, our writers speak from where they are now in their grief, _________ years later. Throughout this series, you will find testimonies of how grief changes us, and how God uses our heartache to shape us into a greater reflection of His image.
Twenty-five. Wow! I had to sit with that for a minute. Or several minutes. Twenty-five years since my son was stillborn. That’s ...
Shannon’s Story
It felt strange to call it grief. After all, how do you grieve someone you’ve never seen? How do you grieve what never could have been?
The due date would have been 12-12-12. How perfect, I thought, as I built dreams and plans. How perfect, I thought, as I sat pleased with the way I had designed my family. But, more than a plan, it was a life. I had started to think of names, to wonder if we would paint pink or blue. I had started to envision how this little one would fit into our family; I monogrammed a Big Sister t-shirt for my toddler.
And then....
Ask the Blog Team: How Do You Respond When Someone Asks How Many Children You Have?
Welcome to our Q+A series, Ask the Blog Team. In this series, the Hope Mommies blog team joins together to answer questions that are commonly asked in grief. If there is a question or topic that you have wrestled with in your grief that you would like the opportunity to see how other Hope Moms have processed or answered, we would love to hear from you. You can submit your questions here.
It depends. Sometimes I refer to being pregnant in the past or having a daughter when I know I won't have to give many details. Other times, I say “none” and others I am open ...
God Sent His Son
Welcome to Hope Mommies’ In the Word devotionals. Throughout this Advent season, we will be studying Galatians 4:4-5 together. In this series, we wil study the gospel truths found in these verses and discover how the coming of Christ speaks into our sorrow.
"But when the fullness of time had come, God sent forth his Son, born of woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, so that we might receive adoption as sons."Galatians 4:4-5
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God sent His Son.
While Christmas does mark the coming of Christ in human flesh, it ...
