Pregnant Again After Loss – Finding Comfort in the Nearness of Jesus

Pregnancy after loss is a journey filled with emotions that can’t be neatly categorized. It’s joy and sorrow intertwined. Hope and fear colliding. A deep love for the life growing inside you, mixed with the grief of the life that was lost. It’s carrying new life while still carrying the weight of loss.

One of the greatest comforts I found in that journey came from John 11, in Jesus’s interaction with Mary and Martha after the death of their brother, Lazarus. He knew He was about to raise Lazarus from the dead, yet He didn’t rush past their pain. He didn’t tell them to stop crying or remind them that something good was coming. Instead, He wept with them. He stood beside them in their grief, fully present in their sorrow, and that truth carried me through my own season of loss.

Because after loss, everything felt different.

I returned to the same doctor’s office where I once received devastating news. I sat in the same ultrasound room, my heart pounding, remembering the silence that once filled the space. Every appointment, every symptom, every milestone felt like both a gift and a potential goodbye. The weight of “what if?” followed me everywhere.

And yet, through it all, I was never alone.

Here’s what I clung to: Jesus was near.

Not far off. Not watching from a distance. Near.

Psalm 34:18 reminds us that “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

God didn’t tell me to move on quickly or pretend I wasn’t afraid. Instead, He invited me to come to Him in my weariness, full of burdens, and that’s where I would find rest (Matthew 11:28). And when the fear threatened to pull me into a spiral, when the grief crept back in, when I felt too weak to walk that road again, the only way forward was to do what He asked: Come close. Breathe deeply. Pray honestly. And ask Him to sustain me.

If you are walking this road—carrying both the joy of new life and the sorrow of what was lost—know this: You are not alone. Jesus grieves with you. He walks with you. And in every anxious moment, He is near, ready to hold you through it all. And that is enough.

Jennie is the Executive Director for Hope Mommies. She and her husband Brian live in Washington State and have four children together— Trenton, Paige who has been in Heaven with Jesus since 2010, Mason, and Cora. If you were to knock on her front door today, you’d find her in something comfortable drinking a hot cup of tea, while trying to figure out how to balance all the things that make up a life. She enjoys spending time in God’s word, fresh flowers, board games with her kids, cooking, and evening walks in her neighborhood. She adores being a new creation in Christ and prays she reflects Him well on this earth.