Ask the Blog Team: What Would You Say to a Mother Doubting God’s Goodness in this Dark Time?

Welcome to our Q+A series, Ask the Blog Team. In this series, the Hope Mommies blog team joins together to answer questions that are commonly asked in grief. If there is a question or topic that you have wrestled with in your grief that you would like the opportunity to see how other Hope Moms have processed or answered, we would love to hear from you. You can submit your questions here.

Girlfriend… thankfully our circumstances don’t change God’s character. It sounds so simple, but we must keep going back to the basics especially when grief overtakes our thoughts and emotions! What a relief that He never changes in the midst of our ever-changing emotions! His Word is true; find even one verse that will continually remind you of His goodness when you are struggling with doubt.

- Kayla

Hope Mom to Anna Joy

Remember God’s faithfulness. “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever” (Hebrews 13:8). I also doubted God’s goodness, but my husband reminded me to remember the Lord’s faithfulness. He also reminded me that I may not feel like God is near, but I am in Christ, so the Lord has promised to be faithful and near to me.

I would also encourage you to seek the Lord even when she doesn’t feel like it. I was not very good at reading the Word and praying after my daughter died, but I did sing constantly. I sang theologically rich hymns that reminded me of the Lord’s faithfulness and taught me more about His character. The Lord used those songs and that worship time to remind me who He is—that He is good—and to remind me that I wasn’t alone. 

- Ravyn

Hope Mom to Noah and Isabelle

He is with you and will bring light into your darkness. Keep looking to Him and calling to Him. Psalm 139 is a passage that has brought me much hope, especially verses 8-12:

“If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast. If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,” even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.” Psalms 139:8-12 NIV

- Sarah

Hope Mom to Baby P and One Precious Babe
Keep holding on to hope, momma. Open up your heart to the Lord, share your doubts with Him, and wrestle. Now, keep in mind that wrestling is different than running away. When we wrestle with God, we are moving towards Him. Engaging with Him. Bringing our frustrations, doubts, and anger to Him. We hold onto God and His Word, so that we can be anchored in the truth. The wrestling you do with God in this dark valley—this gut wrenching, soul searching wresting match—can be a powerful tool to draw you nearer to Him.
 
Tell God how you feel. He is a loving Father who welcomes your questions, thoughts, and deepest feelings. Be honest with Him. While He already knows all of your thoughts and emotions, He still longs for you to come to Him. Lay your doubts, fears, and disappointments at His feet. He is waiting to exchange them for His peace, strength, and joy. Dive into His Word. For every lie you are tempted to believe, search the Scriptures for a promise that you can cling to in its place. Continually renew your mind with the unchanging, sufficient Word of God. There may be days, maybe even a lot of them, when your grief tries to convince you that God does not care. But you can’t let your feelings win. Let Scripture guide you to what is true. Cry out to God, draw near to Him, open up your heart to receive His goodness.
 

- Ashlee

Hope Mom to Simeon and Odelle
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