15 results for tag: One Another

Be Patient With One Another: Her Story

Someone has said, “Patience is love on the anvil, bearing blow after blow of suffering.” Long ago, the Apostle Paul expressed it this way: “Be patient, bearing with one another in love” (Ephesians 4:2).      And in his famous “love chapter” from I Corinthians 13, Paul said it like this:    “Love is patient…”    The first of 15 qualities that Paul ascribes to love is patience. Long-suffering. Literally “long-fused”. Slow to anger. Bearing with another’s imperfections, faults, and differences.  Just a couple of years ago, after 24 years of marriage, Peter and I thought we knew what it meant to “be patient, bearing ...

Be Patient With One Another: His Story

Patience How my wife has shown me great patience during this deep loss Pause: The loss of our little girl caused our lives to pause and stop at a moment in time, a moment that will never be forgotten. I’m reminded of a margin in a book or a comma between words; it’s there for a reason. Watching my hurting bride, Kelly, at this deepest pause God put in our path was the hardest sorrow my heart has felt. Then I called on the name of the Lord: “O Lord, I pray, deliver my soul!” Psalm 116:4 Acceptance: At the beginning of this trial, what my wife and I experienced was more of a shared, mutual state of shock. From the emergency C-section ...

Serve One Another: Her Story

I arrived at the doctor’s office and was almost immediately called back for my ultrasound. But as the first glimpse of this precious little one appeared on the monitor, I knew in my heart that something was not right. He was not as big as I had expected for being 14 weeks. And he was completely still. Schmidt babies are never still. After a few moments of searching, our ultrasound tech confirmed what I already knew to be true. His heart was not beating, and mine was aching. I was moved into another room to wait to meet with other nurses and doctors who would tell me what to expect in the coming days and weeks. As I sat in the silence, feeling ...

Serve One Another: His Story

Serving One Another I am going to start off by saying that I did lots of things wrong… just ask my wife. It is only by God’s grace that Ashlee and I have been able to serve one another in the midst of loss because we are two sinful people. But God still worked through me as I tried to serve my wife despite all my faults and failures. If this whole “serving one another in grief” thing seems overwhelming, well that’s because it is. But here is the thing: we have God multiplying our work. As you move ahead one step at a time in obedience watch what God will do. Don’t let your past failures and selfishness in your marriage keep you from ...

One Another

The loss of a child changes your life.  And sorrow of this magnitude also greatly effects your relationship with your spouse. When we are cloaked in such a heavy grief, it can be immensely difficult to remember that this heart-wrenching loss has not only altered your life, but that of your spouse as well.  It is hard enough to learn how to walk through life without your beloved children in our arms, but we also must learn how to navigate this sorrow along with someone else. And in the wake of such hurt and pain, bringing two grieving hearts together can feel like an impossible task.  Our human nature tells us to turn inward in our grief. It tries ...