Lies in Grief: I Could Have Prevented My Baby’s Death
Welcome to Part 3 of our Lies in Grief series. So far, we’ve covered lies about our bodies and our sin when it comes to baby loss. This week we will expose lies about our power and control in baby loss, and explore the comforting biblical truth of God’s sovereignty.
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Lie: I Could Have Prevented My Baby’s Death
Hope Moms,
Are you second-guessing every decision you made since the moment you learned you were with child? Are you wondering if there was something you did—or something you didn’t do—that was the cause of your baby’s death?
As we ...
Lies in Grief: God Took My Baby to Punish Me
Welcome to Part 2 of our Lies in Grief series. If you missed Part 1, you can read it HERE.
Losing a baby makes us especially vulnerable to believing lies about ourselves and God. Having to unexpectedly say goodbye to our babies breaks our hearts, creating cracks that need filling. Unless we fill those cracks with God’s healing truth, the enemy is going to fill them with his lies. Join me in exposing these lies we are believing in grief, and let us experience the balm of His truth together.
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Lie: God took my baby to punish me
This week, I’m ...
Lies in Grief: “My Body is Bad”
Friend, since becoming a Hope Mom, have the negative voices in your mind—and the ones around you—intensified? Losing a baby makes us especially vulnerable to believing lies about ourselves and God. Having to unexpectedly say goodbye to our babies breaks our hearts, creating cracks that need filling. Unless we fill those cracks with God’s healing truth, the enemy is going to fill them with his lies. This month I am going to be covering what God’s Word says to some of the common lies found in our community of Hope Moms.
We were never meant to live life alone, and ...
Mental Health Moment: Why Is It So Hard to Believe My Baby is Gone?
One of the hardest parts in the aftermath of losing a baby are constant reminders of them. Empty nurseries. Phantom kicks. A saved pregnancy test on the counter. Baby showers to cancel. Encroaching due dates. Exciting news that was never given a chance to be shared. Bodies that remind us they were once creating life, but now are not.
These reminders proclaim that there once was something to celebrate, but now they are not here, and they won’t be coming back.
(Mama, if you need to pause with that last statement and cry your eyes out, go right ahead. Death is worth ...
What hasn’t changed
Hi friend,
Thanks for being here and walking through this conversation on identity with me over the last few weeks. We’ve talked about not recognizing ourselves anymore and about who we are now. And after everything we’ve walked through together, there’s still one question that rises in light of it all.
If I’ve changed… and if I don’t fully recognize myself anymore… then what is still true?
Because when so much feels uncertain, our hearts begin searching for something steady to stand on.
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What Hasn’t Changed
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Who am I now?
Hi friend,
Welcome to Part 2 of our Identity After Loss series. If you missed Part 1, you can read it here.
There are questions that come after loss that you never expected to ask. They don’t always show up right away. Sometimes they hit you in a random moment, and other times they come all at once. But eventually, many of us find ourselves sitting with the same question.
Who am I now?
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Who Am I Now?
Before loss, I didn’t spend much time questioning my identity. I knew who I was. I knew what my life looked like. I had ...
Today belongs to you, too.
Happy Mother’s Day.
As I type these words, I feel the weight of what they hold for a Hope Mom. I wish I had the perfect words for you, something to say that could meet every ache and every question sitting in your heart. The truth is, I don’t, but I can sit here with you, and I can remind you that you are not alone in any of this.
I am praying that you feel carried by the grace God has for you today. He will meet you in each moment as it comes. You don’t have to have what you need for the whole day all at once. He will give it to you as you go. His grace is ...
When you don’t recognize yourself anymore
For most of us, there is a moment after loss when we realize something we didn’t expect. In our grief, we begin to see that we’re not just grieving our babies, but the million little losses that come with it, too. One of the biggest is noticing that we don’t quite feel like ourselves anymore.
I’m sharing this as part of a short three-part series on identity after loss, because this piece of the grief journey can feel especially disorienting and hard to put into words. If you’ve felt this too, I hope you know you’re not alone.
Before I walked ...
What does it mean to be ‘in Heaven’?
Our Easter service a few weeks ago included the song Death Was Arrested; the song’s bridge reads:
Oh we’re free free forever we’re free
Come join the song of all the redeemed
Yes we’re free free forever amen
When death was arrested and my life began
As the song played, I immediately thought of my Hope Baby, William–he could have sung these words with me that very moment and meant every one of them! He is free, redeemed, and his life began the moment he woke up in Heaven.
Did you know the same is true for you and your Hope Babies? They are worshipp...
Will I recognize my baby in heaven?
One of the things that happens after losing a baby to miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss is a battering of questions from deep places in our hearts, such as, “What will my baby be like in heaven? Will they always be a baby? Will I recognize them? Will they recognize me?”
These are tender, personal questions that come from love and longing. We were created to know and be known, and that desire runs especially deep within families, and with our children, where bonds feel so immediate and instinctive. And while Scripture doesn’t give us explicit answers to each ...
