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Hebrews 6:19

"We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul."

One of the hard parts of baby loss is watching you

One of the hard parts of baby loss is watching your husband grieve.

It is hard to see the man you love carry a sorrow neither of you can fix. It hurts to watch him long for a child who should have been his to hold, protect, and guide.

You know how much he wanted to be a father to this baby. You know what he is missing: midnight walks through dimly lit hallways, holding his baby close and listening to soft breaths as they drift back to sleep; bedtime stories spoken with love; drooly, toothless grins and belly laughs as he blows raspberries on a soft belly; chubby legs stumbling forward, taking first steps into his steady hands.

Even if there are more living children, there is still so much he is missing with this one.

And perhaps what aches the most is knowing how fiercely he loves a child the world doesn’t get to see.

As mothers, we carry our own grief, but we also carry the ache of watching the men we love grieve the children they love, too. We watch them shoulder their own heartbreak while caring for ours. They sit beside us in hospital rooms, hold us through our tears, listen to our fears, and faithfully walk through a grief they never wanted any more than we did.

So today, on Father's Day, we want to pause and honor them.

To every Hope Dad, thank you for the ways you have loved your child, grieved your child, and remembered your child. Your love didn’t end when your baby died, and your fatherhood didn’t end either.

Happy Father's Day.

Would you be willing to partner with Hope Mommies

Would you be willing to partner with Hope Mommies to support other grieving moms in your area and remind them they are not alone? Consider hosting a Hope Box Gathering.

This is a meaningful way to honor your Hope Baby and support your community. Let us help you every step of the way as you raise funds, assemble Hope Boxes, and distribute them to local hospitals, doctor offices, or churches.

Tap the link in our bio to learn more and fill out the gathering interest form here: https://hopemommies.org/box-gatherings

For so many grieving moms, the questions don't sto

For so many grieving moms, the questions don't stop after loss.

What if I had noticed sooner?
What if I had asked for another test?
What if I had done something differently?
What if this was my fault?

If you've found yourself replaying every decision, every symptom, every moment, searching for an answer, you're not alone.

One of the most painful burdens many Hope Moms carry is the belief that they could have prevented their baby's death. But the truth is that guilt often asks us to take responsibility for things God never asked us to carry.

You were never meant to know everything.
You were never meant to control everything.
And you cannot undo what God, in His sovereignty, allowed.

Mama, there is freedom in remembering that you are not accountable for what you did not know.

This week's blog explores the lie of self-blame and the biblical truths that help us fight it.

If you've been carrying a heavy weight of "I should have..." statements, we pray this encourages your heart today.

Read the full article at the link in our bio.
https://hopemommies.org/lies-in-grief-i-could-have-prevented-my-babys-death

Have you been a part of our Hope Groups and sense

Have you been a part of our Hope Groups and sense the call to lead one? We are looking for leaders who are ready to pour out the love and truth they have received on their own grief journey into other Hope Moms.

If that's you and you want to apply to become a Hope Group leader (or just learn more about leading), you can find out more here: https://forms.gle/Xb36RccX7mutufBu7
// You can follow the link by clicking on the link in our bio. //

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