Today belongs to you, too.

Happy Mother’s Day.

As I type these words, I feel the weight of what they hold for a Hope Mom. I wish I had the perfect words for you, something to say that could meet every ache and every question sitting in your heart. The truth is, I don’t, but I can sit here with you, and I can remind you that you are not alone in any of this.

I am praying that you feel carried by the grace God has for you today. He will meet you in each moment as it comes. You don’t have to have what you need for the whole day all at once. He will give it to you as you go. His grace is sufficient for you.

I’m praying that you feel cared for in tangible ways. That someone shows up, sends a text, says your baby’s name, or simply sits with you. (And even when they don’t get it exactly right, I’m praying that the Lord tenderly holds your heart in that too and gives you grace for them as they try, even imperfectly, to love you.)
I’m praying you have space to grieve today. Space to cry if you need to, or to be alone, or to be with others. I pray that you give yourself the freedom to just be. You don’t have to force yourself to do anything other than be right where you are.

I pray that you are able to experience joy and confidence today, recognizing that you are a mother. I know it can feel confusing to be a mother without a baby in your arms, but the Lord formed life in your womb, and in that moment, you became a mother. That is something loss can never undo. Your motherhood did not end when your baby went to Heaven. Mother’s Day belongs to you, too.

I am also praying that you feel the deeper anchoring of who you are in Christ. Your identity is found in Him. It is not defined by the loss of your baby or the way your story has unfolded. You are a Hope Mom, yes, but you are so much more than your loss. God has called you by name. You are His. You are precious in His sight, and He loves you.

I’m praying for your heart as it holds so many conflicting emotions at once. May you have the ability to feel joy with sorrow, hope with fear, excitement for others, and longing for yourself. You don’t have to untangle any of these feelings today. You are allowed to carry them together, offer them up to the Lord, and receive His peace.

I’m praying for wisdom, too. Wisdom to know when to speak and when to be quiet. Freedom to boldly share about your baby or to choose privacy while holding your story close to your heart. And for the courage to wrestle honestly with the Lord, and the tenderness to run to Him again and again in desperate need of His grace.

Most of all, I want you to know this. You are seen and loved and known. Nothing about your story has been overlooked by God. I’m praying that you feel His nearness today and catch glimpses of His kindness. You are not carrying this day alone, Hope Mom. Grieving your motherhood story is so painful, and the Lord sees every part of it.

You may feel weak, or weary, or like you don’t have what it takes, and that’s okay, because you were never meant to carry this in your own strength. His strength is enough for you today. He is sustaining you, holding you, and carrying you through every moment. And He won’t let you go.

With so much love,
Jennie Parks
Executive Director

Jennie is the Executive Director for Hope Mommies. She and her husband Brian live in Oregon and have four children together— Trenton, Paige who has been in Heaven with Jesus since 2010, Mason, and Cora. If you were to knock on her front door today, you’d find her in something comfortable drinking a hot cup of tea, while trying to figure out how to balance all the things that make up a life. She enjoys spending time in God’s word, fresh flowers, board games with her kids, cooking, and evening walks in her neighborhood. She adores being a new creation in Christ and prays she reflects Him well on this earth.