Ask the Blog Team: What is Something You Wish You Would Have Known?
Welcome to our Q+A series, Ask the Blog Team. In this series, the Hope Mommies blog team joins together to answer questions that are commonly asked in grief. If there is a question or topic that you have wrestled with in your grief that you would like the opportunity to see how other Hope Moms have processed or answered, we would love to hear from you. You can submit your questions here.
What is something you wish you would have known in those early days of grieving when it felt so heavy and dark?
- Shelly
Hope Mom to Zachary Robert- Sam
Hope Mom to Baby Martin and Maxwell SpencerI have also found this to be true. God allows your grief to be a beautiful addition to your life and eternity. He brings beauty even from these ashes. Do the work of feeling all the feels and crying all the tears now, because on the other side of your grief journey you will gain more lasting peace than if you ignore it now. It will come out eventually, its best done now in the early days where it feels unbearable.
- Kayla
Hope Mom to Anna JoyThe Lord is enough. I do not mean to sound calloused. I would give anything to have four living children instead of two. However, this is God’s lot for me, and it is good even if I don’t understand it or feel like it is. He has given me Himself, and that is so much more than I deserve. I deserve hell, yet the Lord has given me eternal life. The Lord is tenderhearted and with us in our grief, but we must love and honor Him above all else. I say this because it is very easy to idolize our children or our husbands. When I realized that God is enough—that if I lost everything else, I would still never lose Him—I was able to rightly mourn my children instead of obsessing over them and how the Lord had “wronged me.”
- Ravyn
Hope Mom to Noah and IsabelleGod revealed so much of Himself to me in my grief, and I know and love the Lord in deeper ways now than I did before my losses. While I would have never chosen for this to be my story, I wouldn’t go back to who I was before loss. God has allowed my sorrow to become a beautiful platform for the gospel, and has opened up so many opportunities for me to bear witness to His greatness through it all.
I don’t want to in any way minimize the extraordinary heartache and pain that I have walked though in losing my babies, but I wish I would have known just how sweet the Lord would become to me as He continued to draw me closer to Himself in my sorrow. I still miss my babies every day and often wonder what life on earth would be like if they were here with me, but there has been such a beauty that has been added to my life in the ways that God has given me more of Himself along the way.
- Ashlee
Hope Mom to Simeon and OdelleAre you a writer who would like to join the blog team? Learn more and apply here.
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